Triggers are one of the biggest challenges and the most consistent part of the process of growth in life. Through the triggers lessons are learned and the part of ourselves that need healing are exposed, brought to the surface. It is like an emotional bomb exploding right on our face. We feel those uncomfortable emotions and we really don’t know what to do with them. We react in ways that we are not always capable of recognizing – because we don’t see them as a threat: they a

When we grow up on an environment that doesn’t make us feel safe and protected, our system creates mechanisms to provide that feeling for us – because safety and protection are necessary for our survival. Control is one of those mechanisms. Control help us to make sure that we are safe, by observing how external things react to the actions we take. It is the way that we learned to make sure that things are going our way, that will make us feel “safe” and that we are “getting