When we grow up on an environment that doesn’t make us feel safe and protected, our system creates mechanisms to provide that feeling for us – because safety and protection are necessary for our survival. Control is one of those mechanisms. Control help us to make sure that we are safe, by observing how external things react to the actions we take. It is the way that we learned to make sure that things are going our way, that will make us feel “safe” and that we are “getting